Wednesday, November 7, 2012
30 Days of Gratitude: Day 7 (My Other Half)
I will be the first to assert that I can do it all on my own. If push came to shove and I had to take care of this family alone, I could. I would. But I don't. And I'm deeply grateful.
At Christian weddings, you often hear that "the two shall become one." Even setting aside the cleaving that appears in some translations, I always thought this statement seemed a bit over the top (although admittedly poetic). Experience has proved otherwise.
My husband has now been a part of my life for more than twenty years. Although we would be close to thirty when we married, we met when we were still teenagers. We have known each other a long time, and we know each other well--so well that he often knows me better than I know myself (which is annoying). More importantly, we know each other's strengths and weaknesses, talents and the lack thereof.
In a long relationship like ours, you can't each do everything. You decide who does what. Sometimes it is a very conscious decision, like favoring one person's career over the other or deciding that one will stay home with the kids. Most of it is not that way. Over time, you learn who is most likely to keep the electricity on and who should make the investment decisions; who should help the kids with their reading and who should help with math; who should drive and who should look at the map. You fill in each other's gaps. One person doesn't have to worry about everything because someone else is doing his part. Two capable and independent individuals become one functional unit, both practically and emotionally. When one is weak, the other is strong.
I am grateful for my other half.