Tuesday, April 30, 2013

For Better or Worse

children walking on the beach

"For better or worse, in sickness or health, for richer or poorer." The traditional marriage vows make it pretty clear that marriage will not be a cakewalk. There will be ups and downs, good times and bad. Sometimes it will be sweet; sometimes it will suck.

Parenting is no different because life is no different. You will have moments of sunshine and roses, hugs and snuggles. You also will be overwhelmed, overtired, and on the receiving end of some "I hate yous." Someone also will likely throw up on you and ask you for money, although hopefully not in the same moment.

Relationships with other adults--even friends we have chosen--are rarely smooth sailing. Emotions and expectations can overwhelm even the best-intentioned, most well-adjusted adults. What makes anyone think that an inherent power struggle with a partially formed human who cannot yet control his emotions would be any better?

Luckily, we love and cherish our children because parenting is not all sugar and spice and everything nice. It's not even slugs and snails and puppy dog tails. Sometimes it's worse, not better.

Parents have special moments they hold dear and moments that make them want to resign. Anyone who tells you otherwise is not giving you the whole story. I aim to tell the truth here, both the terrific and the terrible. As Glennon Melton said in her Momastery post today, "it's braver to be Clark Kent than to be Superman."

I'm no Super(wo)man, so Clark Kent is all I have to offer. I hope you'll stick around to see what this bumbling girl in glasses has to say about the ups and downs of motherhood and being me.

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  1. LOVE this! Perfectly said!

    Jill H

  2. Yup, I'm here. Amazing that I found your blog through a controversial post, decided that we should agree to disagree, and now I have found a new blog I enjoy reading :)

    1. Thank you, Kim! I look forward to your hanging around. Funny how things work sometimes.