Monday, June 3, 2013

Through a Mother's Eyes

pink dogwood blossoms

I did not anticipate how much being a mother would change me.

A mother's lens makes me see the world differently. The fast-driving teenagers do not annoy me; I worry for their safety. I want to pull to the side of the road to tell tweens I do not know to wear their bike helmets. Every creek, pond, and swimming pool is a terrifying hazard.

Every bad thing that happens to a child could happen to my child. I can't see the news, read a novel, or watch a movie without seeing the characters as a parent would.

It means that every sad and awful thing I read in the news haunts me. So I try not to read the news.

It means that I cannot read books in which bad things happen even to fictional children. My book club (mothers all) has a ban on bad-things-happen-to-kids books.

It means that I can watch a movie about adults and view the characters not as peers but as children through their parents' eyes.

I had one of these experiences while watching Silver Linings Playbook. At the beginning of the film, Pat has been released from a mental institution after committing a violent act triggered by his bipolar disorder. He is broken, as are many of the other characters in the film. The prevailing question is whether Pat--and his family and friends--are going to be okay.

No spoiler here, but at a happy redemptive moment, you begin to think Pat and crew just might make it.  Pat rejoices, and his friends and family share his joy.

In that moment I felt Pat's joy, but I also saw the scene from his parents' perspective. The worry, optimism, and relief on his parents' faces was heartbreaking. In that instant, I saw only a struggling child through his parents' eyes.

That single movie moment crystallized for me that I will always feel about my children the way I do today. I will always worry about them. I will always try to protect them. I will always do what I can to comfort them and make their lives better. As long as we are on this earth, I will always be my children's mother.

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I have linked this post at Just Write.




7 comments:

  1. Sounds like you have motherhood done very well.

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  2. Great post, it is so true that once you become a mother your perspective is completely different!

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  3. Love this. We both wrote about mothers, but I wrote about mine. I'm not a mother, but so much of what you wrote here, it reminds me of her. She always tells me, "One day if you're a mother, you'll understand..." :-)

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  4. Nice post :) we now see the world through 'a mother's eyes'...

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  5. Dear Cynthia
    I, like all mothers as you noticed, was very bad with this worrying thing about my two sons. Then I read a book from A.W. Tozer, In Pursuit of God. He said that only the people we trust our God enough to leave in His care, are safe for eternity; the people we try to protect ourselves are not, for we are not able to do what only God can do! Now every time I worry about my two sons, I talk to Jesus about them, telling Him how hard it is for me to trust Him. I give my sons to Him over and over again until I finally stop worrying! I hope this will be of help to you!
    Blessings
    Mia

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  6. Hiya Cynthia,that is just how it is as a mum,isn't it! We just love those kids SO much don't we!
    #justwrite

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  7. What a great post. I can totally relate... I'm scared of watching the news!

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