Have you ever tried to relax by envisioning yourself in a peaceful place? This is mine.
It's not always this peaceful. It's often filled with boats and jet skis and yelping kids. In my memory, it's not as quiet as I now find it. My lake memories are filled with parents and grandparents, great-aunts and uncles, and lots of cousins.
I visited my family's small house on this lake every July Fourth week of my childhood. During college and law school, my friends and I vacationed there. Many years ago, I met my ex-boyfriend there for the closure we both needed to resolve our year-old breakup. If closure was the goal, then it was an abject failure, because we got back together then and, four years later, we married.
I no longer restrict my annual visit to July 4 because the huge family gatherings are no more. When I go now, it is with my children and my parents. We stay less than a week, and that is enough.
Whenever I'm stressed or I can't sleep, I close my eyes and envision myself sitting on the pier. This is the view I see. It works every time.
Do you have somewhere you can escape to in your mind? Is it somewhere you have a long history or a new discovery? Based on all my history in this one spot, I don't think anywhere ever will replace it as my mental escape.